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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a number of AA moms who kept their maiden name including myself.  I didn't want the hassle of changing, felt I was a person in my own right, and was used to my own name.  [/quote]

Wait, taking your husband's name makes you less of person in your own right?  What an interesting and completely WRONG idea.[/quote]

to a certain extent you do become another person when you adopt somebody else's last name. you grow up Mary Brown, go to elementary, middle and high school, make tons of friends, go to college, move from one town to another, have a career  and all of a sudden, at 35, you become Mary McCarthy.  but for all the people who ever met you from birth on you are Mary Brown and Mary McCarthy is a stranger. your current good friends will know, but others will not. professionally, it can be difficult, in many other countries women do not change their last name, so if your career involves contacts will people abroad, changing name will not help you.

ask your husband to change his name to yours, and then you will see how suddenly keeping one's own name become important.[/quote]

Yeah, no, sorry.  I'm the same person.  And professionally I'm fine, and I do quite a bit of business overseas.  Shockingly enough, my contacts are educated enough to know that lots of Americans change their names!  It sounds like you have issues.  [/quote]

New poster. PP does not have issues.  Names are tied to identity.  Giving up your name means giving up part of your identity.  And I agree--if there is no loss involved in changing your name, why don't you see husbands eager to do it?[/quote]

I disagree with this. There are kids/people with names of fathers that they've never met and had no relationship with whatsoever. What exactly is Johnny Brown Jr. identifying with when he's been raised by his mother Susan Jones his entire life and never met Johnny Brown Sr. or his Brown extended family?

My best friend took her husband's name and couldn't wait to do so because she carried the name of a man who hadn't been a part of her life since she was a toddler. Sometimes, surnames are simply meaningless.

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