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[quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who was besotted with her boyfriend, just crazed out of her mind. They had some problems before the marriage, and they split up, but then got back together, and got married. Yea! Everything was beautiful and perfect for a while. Actually, her husband told her on the honeymoon that marriage wasn't all it's cracked up to be!!! Oooops! She was beyond ashamed that she'd married this man, but stuck with him because, as I mentioned earlier, she was mad with love for this man. It got worse. He propositioned a co-worker of hers, who eventually told my friend about it. Her DH said the co-worker imagined it. Then she found out he'd been secretly watching porn, so much so that he'd racked up huge debts, secretly, from his porn addiction. She'd thought he was working late, but he was spending all night watching porn, then getting up and going to work! About six months into the marriage, she filed for divorce, still besotted with this man, still so sad she could barely stand up or speak, so heartbroken she cried all the time, all day every day, even took time off from work because of her heartbreak. 
She's divorced and has found a nice, stable, reliable, wonderful man with none of the issues her former love had. She's still in a bad place re: marriage (she won't get married), but at least she got out and got into a good relationship. I mention this because your story sounds a bit similar to my friend's story. They'd had a long-distance relationship prior to getting married, and yes, as it turned out, he'd been cheating on her the entire time, during their engagement, and then after they were married. She knew nothing, so in love was she! Blind, I'd say, but I'd never say it to her face. 
I don't think I'd cut and run, OP. You need to figure out what YOU have done to cause this situation. Life is not black and white, cut and dried, good and bad, and neither are people. If your pattern is to cut and run, then I advise you not to do that in this instance. Work out why you fell in love with this man, what red flags were there that you ignored, whether or not you can move beyond this. I'm not saying you can, and in the end you may split up, but you won't learn anything about yourself by leaving, and if you do, you'll probably repeat the same pattern all over again with the next guy.
Good luck to you OP. Hugs. [/quote]

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