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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm black and I kept my maiden name.

My kids were actually born out of wedlock and we married several years later. People always assumed that we were married and I was in fact called Mrs. ____ for many years prior to us getting married. I think that the visibility of the spouse is what actually governs people's assumptions. My husband did drop off more that 50% of the time, went on field trips,  and attended parent conferences. The out of wedlock assumption was never a problem for us. [/quote]

My ex does pickup and I handle drop offs. We were never married, yet people often refer to me as Mrs. _____ as well. It's probably assumed that we're still together since DD is with us both daily. In reality, we were apart by her 1st bday. Our experience totally refutes the so-called data.

This reminds me of AA parents who feel inclined to use "White" or racially ambiguous names to avoid discrimination down the road. I intentionally picked a pretty, but ethnic name for DD. Condoleezza Rice and Barack Obama have done well for themselves, unique names and all.[/quote]

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