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[quote=Anonymous]OP I'm so sorry you are in this situation. I snarked about hitting him with the boot and I'm sorry about that too, this is so much worse!

I second the advice about printing all of this out and getting to a therapist. Please stop thinking this is your doing and that you are the one with the problem and do this for you and your children.

I'm going to be honest with you and I say this is the kindest way possible. I am always the one to advocate for therapy and working on a marriage and giving it all you've got before divorce, but if I were in the situation I would make plans to leave as soon as possible. I'd be seeing a lawyer now.

You said you decided early on that he was "the one" and I think that probably blinded you to some serious red flags. Stop ignoring and excusing them and do something about it now before you are 20 years in to a loveless and miserable marriage. You keep excusing his behavior so I wonder what else you haven't told us.

Marriage is about an equal partnership, yes, and two people doing their part and pulling their weight. Marriage is [i]also[/i] about being kind and compassionate to one another and yes going out of your way to make sure the other person, who you love and committed to, is happy and healthy. You deserve that. Everyone deserves that.

BTW your husband needs therapy too. I cannot imagine a person with a healthy body mind and soul doing this to his partner. Especially his pregnant wife, especially his wife in labor. Jesus Christ, he wanted you to drive yourself to the hospital! How would you feel if your sister, best girlfriend or [i]daughter[/i] was in that situation. Seriously I teared up reading that second post and this is an anonymous internet forum. It [i]is[/i] that serious.[/quote]

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