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Why does it have to be one or the other?  I am a reasonably nice guy who will do anything in bed my wife wants to try and surprises her with nights in hotels to get some passion into it?  [/quote]

Funny.  I'm a nice guy, thoughtful and considerate with the wife.  Back when I was dating around before we met I was anything but.  Not proud of my behavior, but I could get pretty much any woman I was interested in. That's not how I want to be now, and not how I have been w DW.

However things had gotten stale between us.  DW would rarely initiate, and would often act annoyed if I tried to initiate but she wasn't in the mood.  But whatever.  We have been together over 20 years now, so we kind of have each other down so I thought.  Well, we had a pretty huge fight a few months ago.  It started with me doing (I thought) a nice favor for her, and she basically turned it around to the only reason I was doing it was so she would have sex w me.  Probably worst fight we have had in 10 years.  In the middle of it I was thinking fuck this shit I am out.  We both calmed down, but a switch flipped inside me, and at that time and to this point I honestly could not care less if we never fuck again.  I'm not looking to cheat, I can jerk off when I need release, and we have young kids, so I'm not going anywhere.  But something in my fundamental desire for her changed.

Anyway, since then I have been emotionally cool towards her. I still ask her how her day is when I get home, listen to her, but I don't fawn over her or lavish affection on her.  I will give her an occasional hug but no sexual contact, no flirting or sexual inuendo during conversations, just cool.  I still take care of shit around the house, etc.  I just kind of 86'ed the sexual aspect of our relationship in terms of my expectations.

About a week into that, I'm on the computer doing some work, and she comes in, sits on my lap, starts getting very affectionate, basically gives me a lap dance.  We go upstairs and have some really good sex that she is way more into than usual.  It has been that way since, with me staying aloof and her wanting to bone.  A. Lot.

I still don't know what to think.

TL;DR:  I will never understand women;  being a bit dickish to my DW has turned her sex drive way up.[/quote]

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