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But apparently I'm just an old fogey, and to not give a fuck about a grandparent's passing anymore. It's kind of sad, isn't it?  [/quote]

And in those days, people tended not to move 5 hours away from their parents. People lived closer together, there were stronger intergenerational bonds, and going to a funeral didn't mean taking multiple days off work to travel - more like an afternoon. I appreciate that you're grieving, but please don't pretend that his attitude developed in a vacuum.[/quote]
It's also much harder for young people to get jobs if they're fired, even at fast food restaurants. [/quote]

OP, your attitude touched me. My husband teaches, and when my grandmother died (who hated him, btw) he did not take off for the funeral; we lived a 10 hour drive a way and I drove there and made it. All my cousins who lived locally were able to take that [b]couple of hours [/b]off from work. But, because my DH did not come, and I did not make it before she died, we were both ostracized for quite a while--and I have become bitter and angry at my family. The same family who encouraged me to go to college, made fun of me when I actually graduated, held it against me when I had to move to find a job. I hate those jerks now. Don't see how it would have made any difference whether I went to the funeral or not, at this point.

Maybe you should talk to your son and tell him how much it hurt you, that you would have liked his support. Or, are you the one who pressured him to get a job somewhere? Or, didn't warn him his grandparent who about to die until it was too late? He is probably immature too. But, just another side of the story.

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