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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi I am the OP of this thread.

To be honest, when I wrote this I was in a state of grief, and there was other issues at play.

Really, what really makes me sad is how far downhill society has come. Out of 8 or so cousins, only one actually showed up. Back when I was growing up (yes, a long time ago) going to your GRANDMOTHER'S funeral was a non-negotiable. If you had to pay a couple thousand out of pocket, you did it. If your boss was stepping on your balls and saying you would be fired if you went, you god-damn-it went and delivered a few job applications in on the way out of town. If you decided to choose the job (not a good job, literally a fast food job he has part time while going to college) over remembering your grandparent's life, well you were in the wrong.

My parents had set up a trust for his 21st birthday, which just makes it worse. It was enough to fly him out to his grandmother's funeral and deal with housing too, plus a little left over, so it wasn't because 'he couldn't afford it. Even if he didn't have that money, we would have been willing to loan him enough to cover.

As for his relationship with his grandmother, they were not super close. We lived around a 5 and a half hours apart, so we (sadly) did not get to get together that often, but it is the thought that counts.

But apparently I'm just an old fogey, and to not give a fuck about a grandparent's passing anymore. It's kind of sad, isn't it?  [/quote]

And in those days, people tended not to move 5 hours away from their parents. People lived closer together, there were stronger intergenerational bonds, and going to a funeral didn't mean taking multiple days off work to travel - more like an afternoon. I appreciate that you're grieving, but please don't pretend that his attitude developed in a vacuum.[/quote]
It's also much harder for young people to get jobs if they're fired, even at fast food restaurants. [/quote]

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