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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is me OP and I am kind of baffled by those who say she does not like me which is ironic since she has told my FIL serveral times that I am "her favorite" which kind of means nothing since she does what she does. Her actions are speaking louder than her words. I do not think its that she does not like me.

I think she was always been a very competitive person, a woman 45 years ago in law school was not nearly as commplace as it is today. I think that competition is still alive and well and for whatever reason I think she resents my wanting to get ahead. I think she THINKS that life has been very easy for us but truth is both my H and myself spent many  years in school to earn the degrees that we have and to pursue the successful careers that we have been lucky to have.

She had issues with 2 of her 4 kids (though today all are very successful) but there is no doubt to hear it from her that raising 3 wild boys was very trying.

My FIL also is a really strong man but not one to dote overly so on his wife. My H is. I think that is the crux of a lot of her resentment.She both admires and resents how he treats me, we have a great relationship and I think while she is happy for her son she really wishes she had that too.

I think its not so much jealousy as it is resentment, the more I have thought about it. Some asked if she does it to others and the answer is a flat yes, she does it to EVERYONE. Some are not as tolerant as we are and she is on practically non speaking terms with them.

For someone who eluded to the fact that I am "living off my husband" I sold a company my sister and I are started years ago and have plenty of my own wealth, so no that is not the case. She  made the comment that I married a rich man as a dig, she knows full well how well I did with the selling of our company.

I will not let or anyone else who obviously has some shortcomings they are grappling with bring me down to be made to feel like I am doing something wrong. I think in posting this I actually answered my own questions and helped myself, so thank you.[/quote]

But what about wanting validation for your hair?! LOL You're ridiculous, OP.[/quote]

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