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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me revise: I just said I thought I was a "good catch," and I guess I mostly do think that on an objective level. But I feel so utterly unattractive usually, knowing that the person who sees the most of me on a daily basis doesn't want to touch me with a ten-foot pole. It can really be a mind fuck over time. [/quote]

DW here. I was there for years. The rejection and resultant feeling of unattractiveness is just awful. I am so sorry. After 8 years of it, I told DH that I was not going to continue in the relationship the way it was and I was going to start seeing a therapist to figure out what I wanted. He was very upset but after a couple of days offered to go to couples therapy. We have an amazing therapist and I am seeing my own therapist and I am struggling royally with all of they resentment and anger that has built up over the years. To his credit DH is trying what is probably his best but I don't know if I can get over how neglectful he was of my feelings and sexual needs. Sorry to share my sob story but just wanted to say that I can imagine how you are feeling and that I am so sorry.[/quote]

Thank you so much for sharing. Before this happened to me, I didn't have any idea how the resentment just compounds upon itself.  So much anger and resentment, but of a kind that is not easy to talk about or discuss with others. So it's just this toxic, dark secret that doesn't stop growing. You are a strong and brave person to take the steps you are taking. Thanks again and good luck :)[/quote]

if you want to chat offline, i am happy to do so.  it is a rough road, to say the least.  let me know, i will set up an email account.  hang in there...[/quote]

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