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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you considered how your husband feels? Do you recognize that he has his own feelings, aside from how he thinks about you?

Based on your post, he is not "abusive." [b]You were fishing for reassurance and being rather manipulative about it, which he probably was annoyed by, which is why he gave an "emotionally stunted" response. Once you realized that you ploy had failed, you dropped the nice act and went right into painting him into a villain.[/b]

Nowhere in your post do you seem to recognize him as another human being, or seem concerned about him at all. Your husband's existence is only to plug the holes in your fragile ego.

Please recognize, OP, that underneath the nice girl act, there is a bit of narcissism. Your husband is doing you a disservice by not calling you out on it, but the Internet is.

Sorry. The truth hurts.
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Man here. This is on point, at least based on the original post.

Had I been on the receiving end of that call I doubt I'd have handled it any better, and I'm happily married 20+ years. If DW had said, "Hi honey, I'm just feeling a little sad and wanted you hear your voice," then that would be one thing and I'd likely respond to that in a pretty supportive way. But to demand, "say something to help me feel cared about," well, I'd see that as manipulative, like the PP suggested. I'd be annoyed and would shut down.

There may be more backstory here. Maybe the DH is indeed an unsupportive idiot. But based on the exchange described I gotta throw my support to DH on this.[/quote]

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