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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dh knows and acknowledges that without me staying at home, he wouldn't have been able to excel and succeed so much in his career.

We've always packed up and moved when he had a better career opportunity, he's never had to leave work early or take a day off for a sick child or for school holidays and closures.  He's never stressed about how the kids were being taken care of at home.  He's knows me and he knows that I would give my life for my kids.  He knows that I will do my best to provide excellent nutrition, activities, bring them up with love and manners, provide them with emotional security and always be there for their 'firsts'.

I take care of all household management related things.  He never has to grocery shop, be home when there are contractors or other random house related appointments, I do all the phone calls, make all appointments. We have a house cleaner, so no one stresses about the deep cleaning, which makes both of us more happy. I take kids to all of their appointments and there are many since both have different special needs.   I'm involved with their school and volunteer in our community.  I'm around during the day and have a couple of elderly neighbors whom I help when they need.  This makes our community stronger and he values living in an area where we are close with our neighbors.

I take care of all family activities.  Sports, vacations, special outings.  I plan them all, dh just has to be there to enjoy them.  He also loves entertaining, I do the invites and prepare the meals.

This acknowledgement and appreciation didn't happen immediately though.  There was a time several years back when I felt he didn't truly understand or appreciate what I did.  We talked about it and he realized it.  Sometimes guys just need for these things to be spelled out for them, it's not something they always intuitively get.

Now before any WOHM gets their panties in a bunch, I know there are WOHM that do much of this too, so it's not that only SAHM should be appreciated.  My mom was a WOHM so yes I know you do a lot too. So tired of the SAHM/WOHM debates...

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You sound like his assistant.[/quote]

You can play it like that if that's how you see it and I don't find that offensive.  I see it as being a partner.  I compensate for him and he compensates for me, together we make this a family dynamic that works for all of us as a whole.  That's the point of this thread- appreciating your spouse, not looking down on them like an assistant or a boss.

Other families do what works for them, I'm responding to this thread in particular and how it works in our house.

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