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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not a SAHM but I can't understand why you would want to have kids and NOT be with them or have your partner be with them as much as possible?  I grew up with a SAHM and coming home from school to see her was such an amazing, internal, substantive part of my life.  I just can't fathom how you could have that option and reject it.  [/quote]

Right. There is a huge emotional aspect to this that so many people leave out of this debate.  I will most likely continue to work with children, but absolutely see the benefit of my mom staying home with me.  There isn't anything wrong with making your family and children your number one concern and not having a career.  At the end of the day, no one does anything THAT exciting and most would leave their job if they won the lottery.  If a family can make having a sahp work financially, I say more power to them!  I'm so glad women have many career options now, but do see what we have lost as well.  It used to be assumes a woman would not work and would stay home.  Now it is assumed you'll work and have children for a man.  [/quote]

Exactly... and sadly enough it seems that too often, the working mothers are still doing most of the laundry, the cooking, the childcare, and the cleaning. I'm sure some will say their husbands split it equally, which is awesome.  But being a WOHM often means you are shouldering even MORE of the burden and it's simply not fair to the woman.  I think managing a household takes a tremendous amount of work, and some women choose to stay home to facilitate that.  Not to mention the incredible emotional benefit of being with your children, for both yourself and your kids.  It is a choice, but some people seem to get really angry when moms choose the SAHM route, despite the fact that it absolutely is a viable choice with very specific, pronounced benefits for the family. [/quote]

Yeah really does seem like in most cases the woman gets the shit and of the deal.  I absolutely refuse to continue working and so more than 50 percent of the work.  He knows it.

One thing though is women do tend to take on a lot that is unnecessary.  Stop planning the social life, don't buy presents, don't plan holiday meals, don't make lunches, don't announce when it is time to buy groceries, I could go on.  No one will die and your husband will pick up some of the slack. [/quote]

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