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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I personally don't feel strongly about the sleepover issue.  But what strikes me is the hypocrisy of the parents who claim that sleepovers are critical for developing their kids' resilience, and then in the next sentence point out that the kids who are not allowed sleepovers will be made fun of in school for not conforming to the "norm."  The message, then, is that the most important thing is to teach your kids to do what everyone else does and be like everyone else, or (gasp!) people might think they're weird.  To me, resilience means the ability to have self-awareness and to get through difficult times, even when other kids might be unaccepting or intolerant.  Obviously none of us WANTS our kids to have a hard time socially.  But that is a part of growing up, and does build resilience.  The fact that other kids at school might have a problem with Susie not going to a sleepover is emphatically the other kids' problem, and not Susie's...and it is Susie's parents' responsibility to drive that message home to Susie.  THAT is what will help build her resilience - not conforming to something that other kids do, despite the parents' discomfort with it, just to avoid a POTENTIAL social difficulty with intolerant idiots.[/quote]

well, well said[/quote]

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