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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looking back, can you see the reasons why he suddenly quit his job to stay at home with the kids?  What was the final straw for him?  It seems like a pretty huge decision for one spouse to make alone without any input from the other spouse.  I suppose it's good that the decision did work out for the betterment of your family.  Now it's a matter of pulling together to make it work now.[/quote]

Doesn't sound like he quit to stay home with the kids. Sounds like he quit his job for some unrelated reason, then became a SAHD by default. This is probably adding to the resentment.

When I became a SAHD it was a joint decision, or actually a push from DW. She fully understood and was on board with the idea that returning to work in the same capacity might be tough later on, but felt it was important. It worked out for us and I made it back to full employment.

Sounds like the OP didn't have this kind of input and didn't have a chance to consider the long term ramifications. Basically, DH just decided to retire young.[/quote]

I'm not sure that we can assume that he didn't quit to be at home with the kids.  That point seems vague to me.  Maybe Op was rising in her career, was taking business trips/working long hours, pulling in the $$ and her dh was finding that he was the one that always had to manage the childcare pick up/drop off, sick days, doc appts, bed times, kiddie classes, etc.  Yes, many working parents do that every day and then some  - not saying that they don't.  But if Op and her dh could manage on one salary, Op's dh may have decided to do just that.

Not saying that it happened that way, but it could have.[/quote]

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