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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]No. No, you really don't. Is your child at home with you all day, playing around the house and making a giant mess? Are you cooking lunch and snacks and eating off of your dishes for all meals during the day? It's not the same if you are out of the house working FT. Your kid is either in a daycare/school situation somewhere else (hence making messes and dirtying dishes and bathrooms elsewhere) or at home with a nanny whose job it is to clean up after the child and take care of those messes. So, no, you are NOT doing the same errands and chores that a SAHP is. Sorry, you just aren't.[/quote]

[b]But here's the rub -- OP can't handle doing the absolute basics of being a SAHP without being utterly wiped. That's problematic.[/b] And I say this as a woman who was in the exact same position. I, quite frankly, sucked at being a SAHM. I admit it now (years later), but I just wasn't cut out for it. I could have written OP's post 5 years ago (and my husband is a saint like OP's for allowing me to muddle through a period when the house was a disaster, I was constantly frustrated, and he had to juggle more than his fair share).

I wish more people were honest about this. The thing that sucks about being a SAHP is that when it isn't a good fit, you are often stuck because of your own sense of duty (dammit I committed to this and I will see it through) or guilt or just plain difficulty of finding a job once you've been unemployed.

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