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Well, I do all that stuff on the weekend.  On the same days that I have to do laundry, clean the house, run errands, etc.  She has two hours a day during which she could do at least some of these things (not to mention that it is totally possible to do laundry, pick up toys, etc. with an awake toddler), but she claims that she can't.  I repeat: if taking your kid to a gym class exhausts you such that you are unable to accomplish anything for the rest of the day, you are probably not cut out to stay at home.  [/quote]

I'm sure you do, but it is sometimes different when you're doing it all day long every day.  It gets pretty exhausting, for better or for worse.  And it's nice to have a little time to yourself during naptime -- it's not like you just want to rush into the next thing.  This is the same sort of "break" that perhaps you get during your commute (i.e. not a lot of a "break") or during your lunchhour -- when you are probably not in a hurry to clean and reorganize your desk everyday or go to the dry cleaners or whatever.  Sometimes we just need a break -- it happens to everyone!

Personally, I think the most exhausting thing is that it's hard to ever FINISH anything.  Yes, I can haul my kid down to the basement to do some laundry.  I put the laundry into the washer and start it.  While I've been doing that, my child has starting to take everything out of all the boxes/shelves around him.  Now I have another mess to clean up.  He helps me clean it up, but he's on to the next thing as soon as he can be.  So we rush upstairs.  We get involved in the next thing, and I forget that the laundry is done in the washer and needs to be moved over.  If it's a weekend and my DH is around, I'll ask him to watch our kid for a minute so I can run down and move the laundry (it takes like 5 minutes).  But if it's just me, it take about 20-30 minutes -- convince DS that we need to stop playing upstairs, pick him up and haul him all the way down the stairs, move the laundry over, pick up together whatever other mess he just made, pick him up and haul him upstairs.  And once the laundry is done, then I have a huge bin to carry up two flights of stairs.  I can't hold my toddler then, so I can't do it.  I have to wait.  Ugh.  It's a serious pain in the butt.

The other thing I've experienced is that kids who aren't at home every day are a little more excited to be home on the weekends.  They aren't playing with their own toys all day long, so they seem a little novel and exciting.  My child is sort of BTDT with his toys, so keeping his attention is a little harder when I'm trying to do a little thing around the house.[/quote]

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