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[quote=Anonymous]Wait, I just don't understand how the OP is the problem.  I don't even get the sense that she's complaining!  Her DH wants more time to himself, and he's right to want that, but she can want that, too.  It's not like watching a child all day is giving her "time to herself."

I'm a SAHP but also used to work PT.  It was tough, and I feel for WOHPs.  But this attitude of hating on SAHPs is unfair.  I remember being stressed a lot when I was at work, but I also could take a 5-minute break.  I could go to the bathroom without someone screaming into the bathroom for me to come help with something.  I could go get a cup of coffee without worrying that something terrible was going to happen at my workstation while I got up to go get it.  I could chat with other adults for a moment in between working on projects.  It was stressful, but there were built-in break times -- things we need to recharge.

When you SAH, you don't ever have those break times.  No matter how well-behaved your kids are, they simple want as much as you can give all the time.  Maybe they nap -- or maybe they don't -- and then perhaps you have a short break.  Well, I wouldn't ask you to use your 15-minute coffee break to scrub the bathroom at work or vacuum around your desk, and it's not fair to assume a SAHP has the energy to run off and do these things the minute she/he finally gets a break.

Also, doing errands is important, but maybe the OP really wants to spend time with her kid -- doing things that are helping him/her develop and grow, not just running around town going to the post office and grocery store.  I personally think these things are valuable lessons, but I also  understand the hesitation to do them all the time, particularly if I'd like for a moment to peacefully think about what I want to make for dinners this week instead of just frantically throw things in the cart before a meltdown occurs.[/quote]

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