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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
Well, tough for your daughter. Your house, your rules.
I make stricter rules for my 10 year old. He knows whining about it will only annoy me, and that I'm not pleasant when annoyed.

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Right, but what does that teach your kid? The fact that the person in charge makes rules which must be respected is an important lesson, of course, but what about other aspects?

Like learning why the rules are what they are, so he learns to set reasonable limits for himself.

Or developing autonomy to manage himself without the confines of strict rules.

Or learning negotiation and critical thinking skills -- if my kid has a valid reason for objecting to a rule and can articulate that in a logical and respectful way, I'm willing to at least hear her out and consider whether her points change my thinking about the rule.

Or fostering a respectful but open relationship, not one where the kid keeps quiet to avoid "unpleasantness" from annoyed parents. I get that there are times for a child to just keep his or her mouth shut, but I would want my kid to be able to talk to me if they found something at home completely unfair and grating. [/quote]

Yeah- it sounds like PP is more concerned with a kid that obeys rather than one who can function independently.  [/quote]

PP you quoted here.

Right, and I get that -- obedience is a good quality in a child, and at times a necessary thing in the adult world even. I do require obedience from my kids in the moment as well, but the difference is that I am open to discussion later. Doesn't mean I will change my mind, but we can at least talk about any family rules, and most of them I will be willing to consider possible arguments for changing or reconsidering the rule if a valid reason is presented. Very few things are truly completely non-negotiable[/quote]

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