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Reply to "How long did it take for you/your spouse to feel balance/normal after an extra marital affair?"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It bubbles up because there are triggers. As much as a person can want to move forward, there will be the tiniest things sometimes that call up something related to the circumstances and negative feelings about the affair. And even if the relationship is now positive, and everyone is trying, those crushing emotions can swamp the cheated-on person at the oddest moments when something triggers them. And if you're the cheater, you have to be prepared to understand that and work through it with your partner. It's not about anyone holding over your head. It's like grief. You can be fine, but then you see some object that reminds you of the loss, and BAM the grief hits again. When that's coupled with the loss of trust, it takes a long time to get through. [/quote] Ditto. There's pain over the betrayal and anger that the pain was caused by the cheating spouse's actions. The gift that keeps on giving.[/quote]
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