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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]rather than thinking about you, texting you, trying to continue contact while you were out of town..he took an easy way to get off..with some FWB.

He is sooo not worth it.[/quote]

+1.  I think that is the part that is troubling because he gave every indication that you were a couple and then backtracked.  It's fine if he doesn't want to commit yet but he needed to be honest about it.  A few words of dating advice though, you have to be explicit with your questions with guys so there is no room for misunderstanding. My sister and I were just joking how you have to ask questions 2-3 ways.  I mean there are guys that are still living with their wives but are allegedly trying to split up and will look you in the eye and say "well you didn't ask if I was living with my wife". As I slap my forehead and wonder how that wasn't covered under if you are seeing anyone.  So I explicitly ask are you married/have you been married, do you have any children, are you living with anyone, is there someone that you see/talk to/sleep with of the opposite gender , are we agreeing to both take our profiles down from Internet dating site, if you change your mind will you be honest and let me know ...  I don't ask it all the same day but over the course of the first month.  Now there will be people that lie but there are some that you can figure out the body language that they are not being honest or if pressed directly they will be honest.  Small consolation but you won't feel like the saying "don't piss on me and tell me it's raining" when you get "but you didn't ask..."

Also, it is sometimes easier to make up your mind about a person when you don't see them as often.  It's tough to see someone 2-3 times a week and spend weekends together but still just making up your mind about someone for the not unusual 7-8 weeks before becoming exclusive. Someone ends up feeling defacto exclusive.  My preference is to take it slower in terms of time and commitment ao in that 2 month period I may have gone out with 2-3 other guys (not sleeping with any) and feel like I can make a decision to be exclusive with just one of them, not lock myself into exclusively dating the first guy that seems decent but maybe we don't have as much in common and miss out on going out on dates with the other guys.[/quote]

This is an excellent post with great advice.[/quote]

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