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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]]Mom insisted on sending very bright Sept bday boy against the advice of Preschool teacher.  K teacher also recommend another year in K, but mom refused as he had excellent academics.  He was a GT kid and tested into old GT center.  Mediocre performance in high school.  College drop out.  
This kid is extremely bright.  He is a good kid—not in trouble.  I can’t help but wonder what another year would have done for him.  [b]We will never know.[/b]  He was socially immature, though.
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Correct. Just as we'll never know what would have happened if my mother hadn't insisted on sending me to school early against the advice of the principal. (Quick summary of the results of my mother's decision: things turned out fine.) [b]If we only made decisions with 100% certainty about the future, we would never make any decisions.[/b][/quote]

NP.  I love that quote.  If I could see 100% into the future that would make my life so much easier in some aspects:). I think you need to think of the decision as being fluid.  If you move ahead now, you can at some point switch schools and have him repeat a grade or defer college a year.  The one thing I always think of with fate is that my MIL sent DH to school "early". I think as a November birthday she had to do some extra paperwork for him to start that year.  He did well in school and was a decent athlete.  My mom had the chance to skip me in K because I knew the academics cold but she said I was having so much fun. If my mom had skipped me or my MIL started my DH on time we never would have met.  It was one of those my college friend from college A had a high school friend that went to college B that had a post college roommate that went to high school with my husband's college friend from college C.  We all had to have the same high school graduation for this to work!

So fate aside, I think so much of it emotionally is what stability/security you provide for your kids. If the peer group is terrible for your kid you may need to look into activities or be more open to doing things with families of the kids your child gets along with or possibly switching schools.  That advice applies if your kid is on time, early, or late entrance to school.  I was terribly awkward socially and that would have been the case even if I was a year older.  For me, feeling comfortable around a group of people, understanding how to handle conflict, and not feeling so set apart by doing well in school and being a rule follower were really the key.  I'm happy now and feel comfortable in my own skin but it took a long time to get there and constantly changing schools was without having any life outside of school was not good for my personality type.  There is no shame as a parent in having to do more if your kid needs extra assistance. I love to find real life examples and I remember reading how the duchess Kate changed middle schools due to bullying.  Not that the new school wasn't without its issues but I really believe coming into her own and gaining confidence and having a core group of friends made a difference.  [/quote]

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