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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Wow this was harsh and maybe needed.  I am not a gold digger and we will obviously have a prenup since we both have children. I was just in shock because boyfriend had previously told me that he does not pay alimony. Well maybe not but you give her 22 percent of your income!!! Boyfriend is not looking to buy her out and I respect that. I guess I just have to look at it like she was an initial investor of his start up.  For the pp who asked about college they agreed to him paying 70 percent and her paying 30.  [b]She forfeited her 22 percent the first 21 months of the divorce as her way of "buying out" the house.  If you add those numbers up he got screwed there too[/b].  He just has an attitude like "you can always make more money" while I find her selfishness irritating he doesn't.  I need to take his lead and let it go. [/quote]

Honestly, OP, what business is this of yours?  They owned a house together before he ever met you (presumably).  They got divorced before you ever met him (presumably).  How they decided to split assets in their divorce is NONE of your business, particularly when the house is split and paid for by now.  (As you state that she bought out his share of the house in 21 months and they've been divorced 4 years.)  How the house was split has no current impact, and you have no way of knowing the complete picture about the house as an asset.  Do you know how much they paid, what kind of mortgage they had, who paid how much of the mortgage when even though that doesn't really matter in a marriage, who put the down payment down, how much the house appreciated, if they did any renovations, who paid for renovations, whether there was a 2nd mortgage and whose name is on that, who supervised any renovations, etc. ?  You have no way of judging whether he "got screwed" on the house or not.  And, even if he did get screwed it was his choice before he ever met you.

You are really looking for reasons to dislike the Ex.  Stop it or leave the relationship; otherwise you will make everyone miserable including yourself.

BTW, I think the real reason you are so angry about this is that you are being asked to sign a prenup and you think that you are getting a worse deal than EX#1 got.  If you're not happy with what's being proposed in the prenup, negotiate on that directly instead of being passive aggressive and tearing down the arrangement between the BF and his Ex.  [/quote]

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