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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry.  But I think you're fudging things a bit. You are not "a few pounds" over your weight. 40 pounds is a LOT of weight.  And at 150 pounds, you were not thin.  I know that because I'm 5'10'', and 150 is my upper range weight.  I'm not fat per se at 150 pounds, but not thin either, and if I kept up my gym routine, I'd never get beyond 145.  What I'm saying is that you have a weight problem.  You really do.  Whether this is the reason your DH is turned off or not, we'll never know, but your weight is an issue.  It's up to you whether to take care of that or not, but your weight is not normal.[/quote]

I am not OP, but people have different body types.  I am 5'11 and would have to lose a LOT of muscle (on purpose, which would be stupid) to get down to 150.  I put on muscle easily.

Weight is meaningless without a body fat percentage.  I posted above - at 205, I was 26% body fat. My ideal would be no lower than 190.  I'd have to stop exercising entirely and severely limit calories to drop enough muscle to get down to 150.   Anyone who is educated on exercise and body composition knows that you can't really tell if someone is "overweight" based on a number on the scale.

If at 5'10 you are 150 and not "thin" then you probably could do some work to improve your fitness and add some muscle.  I wouldn't trade my body for yours, ever, even though given my numbers, you'd probably describe me as obese.[/quote]
Body fat percentage AND body volume.  At 205 and 190 pounds, what size are you?[/quote]

Where do you get the idea that body volume is valid metric for determining overall health or fitness level?  That makes no sense.  [/quote]
If it makes no sense, why did you mention that your lifting partner is size 2 to 4?[/quote]

Okay, clarification - body volume, independent of body fat, is irrelevant.  IF someone is 25% fat that person is categorically not overweight or obese, whether she is a size 2 or size 12.

(and, given the fact that you people seem to think that size 4 is acceptable for someone who is 5'11, I am surprised that you don't think my friend is fat)

I am not going to engage anymore.  In the unlikely event that OP is still here - OP, if you decide to make a physical change, do it because you love yourself, not because you hate yourself.  You deserve the time and attention it takes to get your body in shape.  You will not want to exercise if you see it as a punishment for being fat (and I doubt you are very fat to begin with).  Enjoy the journey and all the milestones that come along with your fitness journey, enjoy all the improvements and gains even if the number on the scale isn't dropping as you expect it to.

(I do suspect that your DH is self conscious about beign so thin and is now making it your problem)[/quote]

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