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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry.  But I think you're fudging things a bit. You are not "a few pounds" over your weight. 40 pounds is a LOT of weight.  And at 150 pounds, you were not thin.  I know that because I'm 5'10'', and 150 is my upper range weight.  I'm not fat per se at 150 pounds, but not thin either, and if I kept up my gym routine, I'd never get beyond 145.  What I'm saying is that you have a weight problem.  You really do.  Whether this is the reason your DH is turned off or not, we'll never know, but your weight is an issue.  It's up to you whether to take care of that or not, but your weight is not normal.[/quote]

I am not OP, but people have different body types.  I am 5'11 and would have to lose a LOT of muscle (on purpose, which would be stupid) to get down to 150.  I put on muscle easily.

Weight is meaningless without a body fat percentage.  I posted above - at 205, I was 26% body fat. My ideal would be no lower than 190.  I'd have to stop exercising entirely and severely limit calories to drop enough muscle to get down to 150.   Anyone who is educated on exercise and body composition knows that you can't really tell if someone is "overweight" based on a number on the scale.

If at 5'10 you are 150 and not "thin" then you probably could do some work to improve your fitness and add some muscle.  I wouldn't trade my body for yours, ever, even though given my numbers, you'd probably describe me as obese.[/quote]
Body fat percentage AND body volume.  At 205 and 190 pounds, what size are you?[/quote]

Why does my size matter? If my body fat is fine, I am not concerned with being small.  Should I drop fat enough to stop menstruating so I can squeeze into that size 4? (I am not sure even that would do it, honestly).  More muscle (and a bigger frame) means I am going to be bigger than someone with a smaller frame and little muscle.

I know you are trying to convince me that I should hate my body, but it's not possible.  I am not interested in being skinny and I feel sorry for all of you that are just trying to be small and weigh less.  My point is just that you cannot categorically say that someone is too fat based on her weight.  I am not trying to convince YOU that I am NOT too fat for my weight.  My point would be the same if I were morbidly obese, or if I were 6'1 and 130.   You aren't educated on fitness so you should stop trying to fat shame people. [/quote]

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