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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]About to leave the work force to raise DS full time.  Just had an interesting convo w husband.  He wants to cancel cable. I want to find a lower cost cable package. He says "well I'm not paying for it".  I'm currently working and could pay for it but the discussion freaked me out. I told him I need a monthly allowance once I quit so I have some discretionary income of my own. What are some things you stay at home spouses do that work for you?[/quote]

You staying at home isn't going to work if your DH see the money he earns as "his money" and the money you earn as "your" money.  He should see it as "our" money.  [/quote]

+1  Even before we had kids when we both worked full time and made similar income, DH was very clear about referring to all money as "our" money.  Once, shortly after we were married, I made a comment about my year-end bonus paying for some house project and he corrected me that "we" paid for it.  This attitude helped make me comfortable with being a SAHM for several years.  On the issue of "allowance", for a while we each had an allowance -- the amount of money we could spend on fun stuff without having to account for it.  After a while we abandoned that since we're both naturally pretty frugal and we were meeting our expenses and savings goals without having to track everything so closely.  And, I handled all the money stuff since I had more time for it.  So DH would check with me before making a larger purchase.  After a while he felt uncomfortable that he didn't have a good handle on our expenses so now he pays the bills each month, I still track our spending and handle taxes so we both have a good sense of what's being spent.[/quote]

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