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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a second wife. My DH left his ex-wife for me. We didn't start seeing each other until after he had moved out of their home and the marriage was rocky at that point. However, he ultimately left her for me. I hate to break it to some of you bitter ex-wives, but life turned out just fine for us. We got custody of both of my stepchildren when they were 4 and 7. They are adults now. I have a great relationship with both of them. They consider this "home". Their mother wasn't abusive. She wasn't a drug user or an alcoholic. We were just able to show the judge that it would be in best interest of the kids to live with us. The [i]Guardian ad Litem[/i] assigned to our case recommended we get custody and that pretty much won the case for us. She got every other weekend and four weeks during the summer. So...contrary to what many of you might want to believe, life is pretty damn good. Money is not an issue. We are not paying any child support at all. We did pay child support for two years ($2,700 a month in Georgia), but that gravy train stopped when we got custody of the kids. We were able to successfully blend our families - I had two, he had two, we have one together. They are all very close and consider each other brothers and sisters in every way because they were raised together. And we've been married over 20 years. My advise as an ex-wife who was royally screwed by an ex-husband. Let go of the anger and bitterness. Life goes on. You don't have to forgive. But holding onto anger only hurts you and your children. tse[/quote] Something about this storyt doesn't add up. A modern judge ((in a not-backwater county in the South who is not golfing partners with the divorcing father)) would NEVER award basically sole custody of a 4 year old when a healthy, mentally sharp, non-parolee mother is arguing for some equal share of custody. Your life might be all roses, but your backstory seems off. At least in 2015 outside of honey boo boo land[/quote] This was in 14 years ago in Atlanta, Georgia. Not "backwater county" at all. And we didn't get sole custody. My DH and his ex had joint legal custody, but he had primary physical custody. It happens a lot more often than you might think. The Guardian ad Litem recommendation is what won the case, in my opinion. Family Law Judges make weird decisions all the time. We did not expect to walk about with primary physical custody. It happened to a good friend of mine just two years ago. Her kids were 12 and 14. They told the court they wanted to live with their dad. The judge gave dad primary custody. Mom ended up with every other weekend and a few weeks during the summer. A year later, dad moved across the country with the kids with the permission of the court. He just had to agree to pay for airline tickets twice a year. [/quote] The saddest part of your story is the obvious glee you feel after separating the mother from her young children. The mother who wasn't abusive or into drugs. And the fact that you were able to convince the judge tells me you actually planned and plotted that. I wouldn't be bitter if my husband left me. But if his new wife planned and succeeded at taking my children away, her car would have mysteriously blown up at the most inopportune moment. With her inside.[/quote]
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