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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i am a 27 year old female dating a 26 year old guy for over a year now. although i love him dearly and he has been a wonderful, kind and generous boyfriend, i find myself increasingly disheartened by his lack of career focus and direction. its not that he is a slacker, per se, he was a brilliant student and has completed 2 fancy degrees. he just doesn't seem to try harder to get a job and build a well paying career. we are talking about the future now and i'm worried that his lack of direction and drive professionally will negatively affect our goals (getting married, affording children etc). furthermore, i really want to be able to stay home with my children for a few years and i need him to be on the path to a well paying career so we can afford to do that.

any ideas on how to deal with this? am i being too superficial?[/quote]

If he's 26, he may just be finding his place after working to earn 2 degrees.  He may not be in a rush at 26.  I was still sort of finding myself at that age.  That being said, he may never be super ambitious and money-oriented.  There are all kinds of people.

If you're the kind of person that does value that, and expects a DH to have the same values, maybe you aren't a match.  You need to think about this long and hard, talk to him, etc., before you get married and have kids.  Ask yourself if you would be okay with him never being an ambitious, high-earner.  It sounds like you already know that answer.[/quote]

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