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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Time and time again, I see such strong reactions on DCUM to people who say they live with a boyfriend or girlfriend and don't plan to marry.
If they are ok with it, why do people have such a problem with it?
Why isn't it ok to live your life with someone without marriage?
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Because it is a symptom of a bigger problem: The inability to grow up, make a decision and be accountable for one's life. [/quote]

Why do you get to decide that only marriage will lead to people growing up, making decisions and being accountable for their lives?
This is the most ridiculous statement EVER!!
You cannot tell me that the twits who get married after a few months or a year of dating (happens all the time!) are more responible or grown up than a couple who has been in a loving, monogomous relationship for 10 years.[/quote]

It's not marriage that leads people to growing up. To make a marriage work, they have to be grown ups, make a decision to be in a committed (legal) relationship and take accountability for making that decision work. That is the point: the growing up comes first, the "twits" that you are referring to notwithstanding. But yes, there is something amiss about a couple who has been in a loving, monogomous relationship for 10 years, if they cannot pull the trigger on making it permanent. One person ALWAYS has at least a foot out the door.[/quote]

This is your opinion.  It is not representative of most monogomous "non-legal" relationships I've encountered, including my own.
You can be married with one foot out the door.   If a person is going to be a terrible partner, they'll be a terrible partner in a marriage or in a LTR.  Marriage will not change a person into a suitable marriage partner.  I'd rather be unmarried dealing with a breakup than married and dealing with a divorce.
Any successful longterm relationship, married or not, must include two adults who are accountable for their own actions and serious about their partnership.
You don't get to make those rules.[/quote]

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