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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
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I'm tired of the whining by people who chose to become parents. Did you think life would stay the same? No one owes you a power career or special accommodations. Decide which one means more to you and spend your time accordingly. No one is forcing you to spread yourself so thin.

Dumbass, if parents were independently wealthy and didn't need to earn money to live and support their kids, I'm sure we'd all choose not to work so hard.

But unlike DINKs, parents need to earn even more money for daycare, preschool, college, etc.

You sound like a typical immature person who lacks empathy and can't understand anything unless it is personally happening to you. You are what is wrong with America. I am happy you're not procreating so hopefully we'll have a few people like you in the future.

Seeing as nearly 90% of the population become parents, I'm tired of the childless thinking they are the only ones who get to advance in the work place. Having children and raising them right is important for our country so the more support parents get,t he better off we all are.

We get to advance in the workplace because we are the ones there doing the actual work for christ sake. Here's what I see: parents, mothers especially, want to be able to get pregnant as often as they like. OK, great, good, I agree, of course they should. But then on top of that they want to be able to maintain their full (or close to full) salaries while on one-two year maternity leave, and then reenter the workforce when they're goddamn good and ready and at the SAME LEVEL they stepped off two years earlier. They come back, maybe the company invests time and money in training them again, and then 10 months later they're pregnant AGAIN and the scenario repeats. I'm sorry but you CAN'T have it all. If you step out of the work force you will be subject to lower earnings and less position than someone who stayed in the game, this is true of anyone who steps out of work, yet parents think it shouldn't pertain to them. What makes you so special? And please save me the blather about raising the next generation. You had kids because you wanted to have kids, not for any social good.[/quote]

+1. This is true.[/quote]

I'm a working mom of 2 with a DH that also WOH.  I agree with this to the point that those who do the work and stay in the workforce deserve to move up and not have someone who stepped out of the workforce for 5-10 years come back in and expect to compete for the same level jobs as the rest of us.  You made a choice to stay home so you made a choice to downshift your career.

We find a way to make it work and still have fairly high profile careers.  You chose not to balance the workload of both a career and raising a family so you are not entitled to the same benefits as the rest of who made the choice to work hard at balancing both.

DH and I find the time to keep my careers moving, coach 2 different teams each year for my kids, make healthy meals, keep a clean house, go to their school events, read to the youngest each night, help with homework/studying with the other, workout 5 days a week, run triathlons, spend lots of quality time with both kids doing all kinds of activities.  It takes a lot of planning and discipline that some moms/parents may not want to do, but it can be done if you really want it.

If you don't, then just say that and be happy with your choice.  But don't make excuses so you can pretend that you can't have both.  [/quote]

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