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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a parent of a picky eater, I would not expect another family to bend over backwards and make a special meal.  In fact, it drives me crazy when people make such a big deal about my daughter eating something, begging her to try this, have a bite of that, oh let me fix this. It almost feels like everyone is held hostage to what she is willing to eat.  So usually with both our own dinners and if people ask, we mention the fruits and vegetables she eats so perhaps the side dish makes it into the rotation.  Even if she eats that particular fruit/vegetable, she may decide not to eat it that day and I have been very explicit that you don't complain or ask for something else, you politely say no thank you, try to find something you will eat that is being offered, and sit at the table until everyone is finished. In some cases, we have sent food with her but that's usually if for example we know it will be pizza I don't expect the person to cook when everyone else has takeout.

My suggestion is to see if there are 5 fruit/vegetable sides that can make it into the meal rotation that friend will eat.  Also, maybe have dessert after his mom picks him up since it sounds like he will never finish his dinner unless you make nuggets and fries.  I've actually read in a few places that offering dessert if dinner is finished is actually not a good thing when it comes to picky eaters.  I've had my dd hide food so miraculously she is done and could have dessert and waited the kids out an hour while they say they plan to eat dinner so they could have dessert etc, had thm try to negotiate If almost all could qualify for a dessert.  In hindsight, I wish I did not go down that path.  So anyway, even though your kids have dealt well with dessert, I would find it difficult to have to enforce the same rules on a guest and would prefer to take dessert off the table so to speak while they were there so I don't have to be the enforcer.[/quote]

Are you freaking crazy??  I can just tell from your post that the reason your kid is picky is because you ALLOW him/her to be.  The OP should not be a short-order cook to appease people like your kids.  The reason her kids eat things is because she cooks for them daily and she doesn't budge on cereal, nuggets or PB&J as an option. The reason the boy and your child are picky is the parent's fault.  It takes 6 times of eating something to know whether you truly don't like or like something.  If you barely let your kids try once, they are missing out on a world of food.

OP, no change at all.  None - zero.  This isn't a once in a while guest.  This is a boy you are babysitting every Monday and he eats what you all eat.  He can eat crap after he gets home if he wants.    [/quote]

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