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[quote]Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

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 actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham. [/quote]

This sounds just like my MIL, also divorced. When my kids were small, we used to drive there (3 hours away) and visit. We would get there, and there'd be no food in the house, and the bedrooms we were supposed to sleep in would be a mess, with the beds covered in boxes, clothing, etc. My DH insists his mom was not this way growing up...yeah, right. We learned to call from the road to see what we could pick up from the grocery store on the way in. Then, we'd still spend an hour setting up the bedrooms and doing laundry. Yes, laundry, because there would be no clean towels or anything.

We started cutting back on our visits, because it was just too hard to go there, since she never prepared for us, and had many breakable items all over her house and would get angry if the kids touched any of them. She then started complaining to other relatives that we never visited. In particular, she complained to her sister, whose grandchildren would always visit. Of course, MIL didn't seem to notice that auntie had child-proofed her house, always had food when they visited, and made more of an effort.

(Meanwhile, MIL didn't like to come visit us, because she's always had three or more pets, and doesn't want to leave them, or take them to a kennel).

The kids are older now, and it's much easier to go see her. But it still makes me sad thinking of it. She is the only grandmother the kids have, because my mom died when I was 6. I wish they could have known my mom, who would have been willing to do more for them when they were little.

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+100000

I know what you mean, unfortunately.

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