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[quote=Anonymous][quote=MarleySkye840][quote=Anonymous]OMG, where's your holiday spirit?  This poor girl has no one to spend the holidays with.  Sometimes it's nice to just be surrounded by people.  let me ask you this.  If your brother was still with his partner and called you and said a friend from work that I'm close to will be all alone at Christmas and it breaks my heart to know she'll be eating a tv dinner alone in her apartment.  Can partner and I bring her to your house?  how would you respond?  You'd probably say it's not a big deal.

you're only making this a big deal because he's sleeping with her - and you don't need to tell your kids that.  Say she's Uncle Bob's friend who can't be with her family during Christmas, so we are letting her come to our house and share our family with her for the holiday.  how hard is that - and you can teach your kids something about opening your heart and home to those less fortunate (even those less emotionally fortunate).[/quote]

+1,000,000

Please stop with the "You'll have to explain this to the kids" shtick. Op, you really won't. Yeah, kids are liable to ask awkward questions but that is the nature of relationships. I had a much older brother when I was growing up and one night he brought his new Gf over for dinner. I loudly asked "What happened to Jenny!?". We all survived even though that was certainly uncomfortable for them.

I think you (PPs) are using the kids as an excuse for your own opinions of this girl. FWIW, Op, you don't even know her. She may be a great person, but you are judging her on here because of your brother's actions and that isn't fair.

Also, the relationship is between your brother, his ex, and the new GF. This is no one else's battle to pick. If there is any awkwardness between that trio, then whatever. I don't understand this idea that the uncle is "ruining Xmas". The kids will learn sooner or later that sometimes relationships don't work and people move on. So please, move on.[/quote]
Give me a break. People's actions do not happen in a vacuum and have consequences.y house , my rules. No, you dont get to just invite a stranger to my home without asking me. Maybe I want to have ex drop by at some point, he is family too and my kids' uncle as well. You made him that to them,  so now you change your mind I have do so too at the drop of a hat. I do not care to be complicit in your secretive relationship and lies to your ex. You can do what you want, just not at my house.[/quote]

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