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[quote=Anonymous]PP here.  Forgot to add that I used to be BFFs with someone that was a pathological liar.  Even though she lied I tried to say, well she is the first person to call on my birthday, the first to write me when I did a study abroad etc.  Then eventually, I saw how she would spin things so for example she would call me on my birthday but make it sound like to the group of friends that I called her and make it seem like out of all the friends I the group I had contacted her from overseas and she would share with them what was going on in my life.  She wanted to own the narrative of our stories and be the center/go to person in the group.  One day I woke up and realized all the things I thought she was doing in friendship that I was willing to give a pass for the blantant lying were really her manipulating me to get what she wanted I.e. Center of the social circle, and me allowing it.  I also had to question why I was willing to accept a friendship that wasn't at its core a friendship where people could be honest for the illusion of someone being there for me.  I had to be willing to cut ties and face perhaps not having someone that would call me on my birthday or that would reach out to me overseas etc to find real friendships I could depend on. It actually wasn't until I stop considering her a friend that I became closer to the other women in our group and have friends that I really can count on. So I am saying that although he seems like he is a good friend, that doesn't mean he isn't manipulating you.  Deep down you have to be willing to have no one to turn to rather than the illusion of someone you can depend on/turn to if you ever want to find the real deal.[/quote]

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