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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I'm sorry that SAHMs in particular are so touchy on this subject. Perhaps there's some jealousy over the realization that not every wife has to go to her husband and seek his approval on every dime spent. [/quote]

There are lots of wives who don't have to ask their husband's approval in every dime spent even when the finances are joint.
- one of them[/quote]

I am a SAH mom and have been for almost 20 years.  I work-part time now that our kids are older, but only about 15 hours a week.  Everything we have has always been joint.  I have never had to seek my DH's approval to spend money.  He probably couldn't even tell you the name of our bank.  He definitely couldn't tell you how much we have in our checking account.  I manage all of our money.[/quote]

The SAHM moms in this thread who have objected to the above sentiment are all ones who clearly handle the bulk of the family's banking and finances.

To me it's just incredibly reactionary for anyone--woman or man--in the 21st century to willingly give up control of at least some portion of their earnings. While it's nice to be dewy-eyed that marriages last forever, it's just crazy to not have some level of protection of some amount of your own pay (apart from retirement savings) from your own job.

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There have plenty of threads here about one partner screwing over the other, and how OP is so shocked and floored and unprepared. can't leave because she can't afford it. 
Fuck that. I'm not getting caught with my head in the sand. [/quote]

Having separate accounts doesn't protect assets in divorce.  Now having a job does and maybe that's what you mean.  [/quote]

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