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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I TOTALLY understand why you're hurt. But, try to take a deep breath and put aside the anger and jealousy you're feeling.

Going to Europe is a life experience, even if you're someone that travels, it's not always to the same destinations. If it was a group of people going as well, it makes a trip like that, really, something that's a "must do", especially if your tacking vacation time on.

Travelling on a random weekend to a very small venue wedding in an unnamed state where someone has been time and time before doesn't rate so high up on the life experience chart. Of course, this day rates pretty high up your chart.

I understand the goal is to be there FOR YOU, but the truth is - you will see her but a few moments that day. She's paying for a trip to see you get married, and then has an evening to fill plus I'm assuming the rest of the weekend... I too, would be weighing the cost to benefit ratio, even if you're important to her.

I'm assuming the Europe Wedding was also a good friend, as most people don't invite to destination weddings unless they're close. Try not to make the assumption that that wedding was "more important". It was an experience, and a choice. Personally, I would be sad if a friend missed out on something like that.

If it's important to you to have her there, be gracious and offer to foot the bill, or at least part of it. Could be that Europe ended up being more expensive than she thought, or when she went to book flights for your event it was more that she thought. Could be that with timing, her credit card will be maxed out at a time she will have her credit checked for her new appt. and she doesn't want that. Could be, even though she's excited, she's already overextended herself on two trips. She did explain that her pay had recently changed. Sometimes until the bills appear, people really fail to crunch the numbers.[/quote]

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