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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get a court order to cease his assets and confiscate his passport[/quote]

^^^^^YES^^^^^^ what are you waiting for.  Move on it woman you may wake up to an empty house very soon if you don't!
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I can't very well confiscate his passport.  I don't even know where it is and that is not legal.  But last year when he left me for OW I moved a lot of our money in our joint acct to an acct with only my name.  He has no access to it and doesn't ask about it. (yes I know half is his but I wanted to make sure it didn't disappear). I hired a lawyer.  I am on the deed to my house--he cannot take it from under me.  Yes I know what I need to do.  It seems incredulous looking at it from the outside.  It's a lot more complicated when you are living it.  I am a headstrong woman and I have a backbone.  I am not naive.

Just one more thing.  About the mind-blowing story.  All of it is true.  And my DH did do everything of his own free will.  But his parents were orchestrating the entire thing while he was laying sick for part of the time in the hospital.  I stupidly called them to ask them if they knew who OW was. (at that point it was just an e-mail relationship)  So they found out about it and they arranged for the OW to come to the US.  My MIL even hired OW as her "assistant" to get OW a Visa.  My DH found out OW was in the states when he went to visit his parents in California (his parents had OW come and live near them) because his mom suddenly got Cancer (not sure if it is true).   Then his parents drove 2000 miles here to hatch their plan.  They went to all the realtor showings for him while he was at work.  They hired his lawyer and paid for it and then tried to take control of the case for him.  He had to tell his lawyer NOT to talk to his parents.  They got him a P.O. box and transferred all his mail there.

I know he is responsible for all his actions.  He is an adult and makes his own his choices.  But he is not a controlling and manipulative person as some are led to believe.  He touched not one cent of the thousands that were left in our checking and continued to direct deposit his entire paycheck in our acct. for the two months he was gone.  He may be unstable but he really is a puppet who lets people pull his strings. Most of all his parents.  And his dad left he and his mom homeless living in a car at 17.  Cleaned out their bank account and disappeared for four years.  DH has learned this behavior.  That is the reason I forgave him. Because he had a really hard life growing up with insane parents who neglected him and up until last year he spent 9 years trying to do everything right.

I'm not making excuses for what he did.  I probably cannot get over what he has done.  But I do have compassion and understanding for people and their flaws.[/quote]

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