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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one whose first thought re labor is -- it's going to be humiliating? FTM (obviously). I have months to adjust to this (and don't want an elective c section, nor will I consider a home birth), but the idea of having my legs wide open, having everyone see everything, being in pain on top of that (even with the epidural -- I can't believe you feel nothing though it would be great if that's true), and having all kinds of drs, nurses etc. in the room, holding my legs -- it just seems over the top humiliating. I realize there is no other option, but still . . . I'm not sure how women go from being full dressed all/most of the time to baring it all in front of strangers, while DH is standing there fully clothed just watching. Is it just that necessity or adrenaline or something takes over, or did you feel bothered or embarrassed when someone lifted a gown or stuck a hand down there etc? I had to get an EKG earlier this week and the nurse was taking her time with the leads and during that time the dr. walked in and started saying hello and I was embarrassed then -- small potatoes compared to labor/pushing etc. Thoughts?[/quote]

The epidural is great.  You will feel nothing except the overwhelming urge to push when the time comes.  At that point you do not care, all you want is someone to help you get that baby out.  These are professionals - they've seen it all.  They don't care.  They won't even notice much less remember the specifics of your anatomy.  They could pass you on the street days later and not even recognize you.  DH does not have to "stand down there fully clothed just watching."  My DH held one of my legs, coached me, etc.

I understand your feelings and am not trying to minimize them, but trust me - you will not care.  [/quote]

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