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[quote=Anonymous][quote]PP and to answer your question, I, or rather my DH, had to tell his parents that I had been pregnant because I had to have emergency surgery (d and c).

I still don't understand. Why did they need to know? It was a d&c--quit common after miscarriage. Btdt

Not the PP - can you seriously not imagine why the ILs were told when she was having an emergency D&C? Hell, mine wasn't an emergency but any time you're being put to sleep for a procedure it's significant. It may be low risk but it's still a significant procedure. You may have chosen differently but most people share that information with their immediate family.

That kind of defeats the whole "not telling anyone until were safe" tactic and most people? Really, none of my friends told their families about their d&c's precisely because we all knew that families would be hurt by not being told of the pregnancy and they weren't told about the pregnancy because they didn't want to deal with the aftermath of telling about a miscarriage. Kind of circular thought process.[/quote]

You and your friends are different from everyone I know.  It's not the miscarriage we have problems telling people about, it's about making people feel like shit because they congratulate you on the pregnancy only to learn that you'd lost the baby.  If they didn't know about the pregnancy to begin with, no one has those awkward, often painful, moments.  No one in our families were upset that we delayed telling them about my pregnancies - I miscarried at 11 weeks and my ILs took care of our toddler when DH took me for the D&C.  That was the first they learned of the pregnancy.  I told my mother about it the morning of the D&C.[/quote]

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