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[quote=Anonymous]You should hire someone to help you when your baby arrives and stop using your vacation time when she decides it's convenient to visit.  I understand your desire to build a relationship between your kids and their grandmother, but you shouldn't bear the responsibility alone.  I spent 6 years shuttling my kids on airplanes to visit their grandparents and cousins for holidays, birthdays, etc.  I used all of my vacation time on visits to my family and my in-laws in the hopes that they would have the relationship I had with my grandparents.  Shortly after my youngest was born I suggested that maybe my parents could come here for Thanksgiving so I wouldn't have to travel with the kids (including a 1 month old).  They declined, but sent a flower arrangement.  I quickly realized that I was doing all of the work.  My DH and I hadn't been on a "vacation" since our kids had been born that didn't involve traveling to visit relatives.  They usually visit once a year for about 48 hrs.

It took me a long time to realize that they have grandchildren nearby that satisfy their needs and don't need mine except to show up once a year so they can get a photo of all of them together that they can use for the holiday card.  When two of my kids were both graduating from their schools (one was asked to give a speech to the graduating class) it was particularly odd not to have any of their grandparents there.  I was seated next to grandparents from far away places (Japan, India, etc.) but ours weren't able to make the 1.5 hour flight due to their schedules and commitments.  They are all retired, healthy and travel regularly.

We recently traveled to attend a milestone birthday celebration for my mother - we stayed 48 hours and they were annoyed we didn't stay longer.  It's okay to feel sad that your kids won't have the relationship you had hoped for with their grandmother, but it's best to come to terms with it now.  [/quote]

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