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[quote=Anonymous]This is so much easier than you are making it out to be. I am a lawyer in DC with FOUR kids and a crappy commute. I go to work early so I can get home early. And yes, our kids go to bed later than their counterparts with SAHMs, so we have extra time together at night. But this hinges on my husband's flexibility in handling the morning routine so I can get into work early. I haven't heard you say anything about what you are willing to do to make the situation better. Having BTDT for last decade (juggling many more children than you currently have), I can assure you that this sort of approach will make things better.

Most of the stressed out parents I know work 9 to 5 plus and head into work at the same time. This is a big mistake. This means both parents get home late, the evening is a chaotic mess, and everyone is cranky and tired. If one parent can get home early, it makes a huge difference. Trust me. And heads up: when your kid is older and has baseball practice or dance lessons or riding lessons or piano practice, then one of you will need to be home early...probably multiple times a week...and you need to be home early enough to get homework done and eat dinner before those activities sometimes (most sports practices when they are older are at 6 and can run for a couple hours...which means you get home late and the kid needs to shower and go to bed). If you have a nanny or sitter, then they can take the load off...if you prefer. We prefer to tag team our schedules so one of us can handle these activities (or both when our kids have activities at the same time).

Down the road, it would be ideal if one of you can switch to 30 hours/week (I'd love to, but haven't been able to yet). If you think life is hectic now with one 6 month old, just wait until you have two kids in elementary school and you need to handle homework, play dates, and activities (not to mention CCD or Hebrew school, if applicable). [/quote]

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