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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there's nothing that's not already here that I can't agree with.

I've been with whom I consider DH For 11 years. I'm now pushing 40. I've watched the best years of my life, fertility, and youth go by. And every month I see my period come, and it aches in my womb, and on my left ring finger., there's nothing I see that will change.

Do I love him? Yes, and I can't complain because it's what I chose consciously. And now, I wish I knew sooner thAt sooner or later, it's too late to fix.

Decide what you want. And go with it. There is still lots of time. Don't think he's the only one, ever. Because regardless, he's not asking. And if you go seek someone who might.. Well.. You' still may ahead of the game. I firmly believe now that a man who is head over heels will ask, and soon, or sooner. Women who wait are chumps. Even if I am one.

In my life, I feel like I settled. But I guess he did too. I'm not good enough to marry. He's not bad enough to leave. And so we settle. [/quote]

If you want a ring on your finger someday, I hope you find a person you care about who wants to give you one.  Peace.[/quote]

I'm not going to hijack... Just OP needs to know that waiting one more day, one more week, one more month... It ain't gonna happen, or it might happen. But she needs to get through that it's unlikely. If he was going to ask, he would have.

She needs to decide what is important to her, and come to terms with it in her own way. Some women are very happy cohabitating, and it's cool. But you need to get past the fairy tale that some day he will see the miracle of stars in your eyes, sweep you off your feet and decide you are the one forever, and slip something sparkly on your hand. It won't happen. He's decided it's forever in his own way. You don't get the fairy tale. You get dishes and scrubbing underwear. I guess you get scrubbing both ways, but one way you get the legal protection and recognition from others that you are their forever. The other way, you are the perpetual girlfriend.

Don't have children with him..and get a cohabitation agreement.

Bah, humbug. ;)[/quote]

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