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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one seriously respects SAHMS. [/quote]

NP here.  I don't think this is entirely true, though it may be for you.  That's too bad.  There is really a wide range of SAHMs in terms of what they bring to the household and family.

I've done it all - working part time, SAHM, WOHM.
The thing about being a SAHM - aside from the ones with Country Club memberships and FT nannies - is that it IS A JOB - one that I didn't get paid for.

I wonder if the lack of respect for SAHMs comes from a lack of respect of low-income workers such as nannies, daycare workers, restaurant workers.
The work of taking care of little children, planning and implementing enriching activities, and cooking meal after meal from scratch, (and all the cleaning and dirty dishes, three times a day + snacks, using no convenience foods OMG NEVER AGAIN) all while sticking to a pretty small budget - IT IS WORK.  If you had to hire someone to do all of this, you would pay dearly.

I don't know why your wife being the one responsible for these tasks would make her not respectable, unless you already don't respect people who do it for a living.

Many people place little value on that work, even though it would have been prohibitively expensive (with my modest salary) to replace myself when both kids were very young. 
After all, if I'd had a "respectable" high-paying career, I probably wouldn't want to be a SAHM :roll:

I doubt working has made me more interesting or more attractive.  I'm tired, though I haven't gained weight I am starting to get saddlebags from desk-sitting.  For me to add a daily workout into the routine would require more time away from the kids - too much already with my commute. I'm glad I had kids while I was young and not very far along in my career, so no "golden handcuffs" to keep me at work - because I would have missed out on so much.  They are bigger now and don't need me so much, so it was back to work for me.

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