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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please tell me you know you can get HPV even if you don't have intercourse. You may have brought it into the marriage. [/quote]

I did not.  I had not had sexual contact of any kind prior to marriage.  I should have made that clear.

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None at all? I find that hard to believe.

Frankly your problem is you are feeling like a victim when he was clear with you that he wasn't a virgin. This is a choice you made but you are blaming him. HPV is extremely common and it sucks that you have gone through this-- but it isn't his fault. He shouldn't feel guilty. You need a lot of therapy by yourself so you can figure out if this is marriage you want to stay in because you are ruining it all on your own. [/quote]

You can believe what you want but I am a very conservative Catholic and no, I did not have sexual contact prior to marriage.  To be blunt, as another PP said, part of the reason was religious, part was to avoid STD's.  Yes, I am bitter I did not.

And sure, HPV may be fairly common, but most don't have the issues I am having.  This is life altering.  Possibly fatal.[/quote]

Ok a bit dramatic.  Yes you CAN die from cervical cancer but you are more likely to be hit by a bus crossing the road. Keep that on perspective. I have HPV and a conservative Catholic but I did catch it before marriage though I was a virgin. That said I have had many LEEP procedures and have had 4 kids. You really need to get a second opinion on your ability to carry a pregnancy.

From what you have posted it sounds like you perhaps have laid on the guilt trip with him and he is probably shutting down. He isn't being supportive because you have been blaming him for the HPV. You have to really deal with that issue on your own. You can't keep beating him up on that. I bet if you talk with him, apologize for blaming him and tell him you would like more support he will do it. [/quote]

They told my mom she couldn't have children because of it.  Little did the doctor know that she was actually pregnant with me at the time.  [/quote]

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