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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All I'm saying is what women do and what they say are not generally in sync.

For instance, what's the "next level" with guy 1?  Physical intimacy?  Because if that's a yes, then guy 2 and guy 3 already had a taste of "next level" before the guy you supposedly like.

Now, you can deny till the end of time to guy 1 any of this stuff, should you two become exclusive, but you will know (and we will know, arbitrarily and anecdotally) that you are not truthful with him.  [b]Any time he brings up a story to another male, friend or boy growing up, that women fuck guys arbitrarily but hold out for the ones they like, you best stay quiet and not argue that as a lie. [/b][/quote]

OP makes women look bad and reinforces the stereotype that A$$holes get laid while nice guys don't. My DH has even said to me that some women LIKE to be mistreated because they hook up with the jerks and keep them around.

Frankly, I would never have done what OP did. Nothing wrong with dating several men IF you are non exclusive. HOWEVER, when she slept with #2, that should have prompted her to be exclusive with him or let the other two know she was more "serious" about #2. If Serious does NOT equal sex (to OP), then why  not sleep with #1? OP admits that #2's only good in bed, he is lacking in other areas, (where #1 excels) so WHY keep seeing him? Why not just dump #2 and have sex with #1?

#1 could be spectacular in bed or he could be okay. She doesn't know because she never gave him a chance. And really, bedroom skills can be learned, so she really screwed up. I don't care if it's a male or a female. I would say the same thing: OP should have 
-dumped the other guys after sleeping with #2
-waited to sleep with him (since she says she was looking to settle down.)
-Slept with #1 to see if they were compatible instead of making him wait.

If #1 asks, she needs to be truthful that she slept with #2, which will reinforce the stupid stereotype about A$$holes getting laid. I'm sure he will ask.

[b]I'm also betting that she is much more conservative with #1 than #2, which is why he appeared shocked when he saw her with someone else. He probably thought they were heading somewhere and was surprised to see her with someone else. [/b]Nothing wrong with dating. Something wrong with her sleeping with #2 while getting "serious" with #1.[/quote]

[b]I'm wondering if OP created the sense of exclusivity in guy 1 to foster that relationship but allowed herself the "hall pass"[/b] with guy 2 by not having the actual "exclusive talk". Kind of having her cake and eating it, too. It's for that reason I think she was so panicked when guy 1 saw her and guy 2; she knew that guy 1assumed they were exclusive. And no, I'm not a detective, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night.[/quote]

You act like Guy 1 had no agency in the matter. If he wanted an exclusive relationship with OP, he was perfectly capable of speaking up and asking her if she would be onboard with that, instead of just making the assumption that she was spending all of her time they weren't together sitting around waiting for him to call.[/quote]

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