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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Growing up, I heard all the time how my family was "perfect" and was very much like the Cleavers.

We were well behaved, respectful and nicely dressed children who all did well in school and took on leadership positions.  We were exceedingly polite and respectful children, so this reputation was earned.

Here's the truth:  I had a horrifically miserable and tragic childhood.  My dad was a raging alcoholic, my mom enabled him and spent her married life trying her best to keep his secret.  We never had friends over because my dad would begin drinking as soon as he got into our house and later, he'd drink en route home, so he'd come home drunk.  We were held hostage by our dad's alcoholic rages and whims.  He was physically and mentally abusive.

Alcoholic children learn to keep secrets and they do it well.  Perfectionism is often overcompensation for misery.
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This was my life with a son of an alcoholic Mother.

He had unpredictable rages and it was our family secret until the day he was arrested.

My life may have appeared perfect, but I've been paying the consequences for the secrets for years now. Finally starting to dig out of the mess.[/quote]

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