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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have too many family members heading off in too many directions to have the luxury of making a carefully crafted decision.[/quote]

Strange comment. Hey that's life. People go places and do things, have commitments. What is your suggestion they all stop in their tracks any plans they have to stop and think, some of the tings people say on this board really baffle me. Like you are implying if you are busy or have a lot going on, one is not capable of making a carefully executed decision? Huh?

OP I missed when the trip is but assume it is happening soon. If you think this will keep you up at night, then you may need to stop her from going. If you think you can have another conversation with her coming from a place of telling her your biggest concerns and worries, then do so and trust her and let her go and have fun. My own feeling as a mother of 3 teens is if they want to have sex they WILL find a way. Quite easy in fact.

It is also possible your D is having sex but not telling you as you seem anxious (not meant to be mean as I am too) and she might sense it and be afraid to tell you and his parents might be "cooler" with this. To someone who said the BF's moms reaction was  surprising. It really isn't to me. A mother of sons is different than a mother of girls, plus the BF is the youngest, so this mother has seen it all. To her this is probably nothing. And I think her response was an indirect way of telling GF's mom that she will put her D in a guest room but that will not be policiing them through all hours of the night if something went on. She doesn't, it sounds, want to be that responsible in that area. Did you tell the mother your concerns? Maybe it f you are direct with her about it, she will have a different response.

I would be a little uneasy too but if you trust your D I would let her go. It is life and   a new experience for her to add to her resume of life![/quote]

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