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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read this differently.  I think the guy was telling you that you were so out of control that you could have been raped.

Knowing the fact that you were sexually abused he may have expected for you to be more aware of dangerous situations and not lose control of your senses.

IMO, the issue you need to focus is not if this guy is a BF material or not, but rather do you need some therapy to deal with the abuse as well as your drinking.[/quote]

+1 The fact that OP never felt unsafe around him, and he didn't manipulate her means he is not the type to rape. If I were in this guy's shoe, and coming from one who got involved with a victim of a sexual abuse, I would take it as a red flag that OP has not completely healed from that scar. So I would break it off and give OP time to get help. I understand how sensitive this is for you OP but you are unfairly and passively putting this guy in a position to feel responsible for something that he didn't and would not do! This is not a red flag. So sorry you got hurt but you should also get help fast before you destroy future relationships or your chances of finding someone who you feel safe with and not know it.[/quote]

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