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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're still overlooking the fact that repeatedly declining sex is hurtful. It really sucks to do all the above and still not be wanted by the person you love. It completely sucks, and sugar-coating it is bulllshit. Yes, compromise is still needed, but let's not pretend like rejection feels great or isn't harmful to your relationship. [/quote]

You choose to be hurt by it. You choose to take it personally. You are making a choice to interpret it that way.  You can choose to look at it differently.

Maybe therapy is an option. [/quote]

Nope, no need for therapy for a perfectly normal reaction. I'm telling you how it feels.[b] You're welcome to convince yourself it feels great, but that doesn't make it true. [/b]If you read other threads, you'd see this is a common response.

I will never again try to stay with a low drive partner. I was tired of feeling unattractive and lonely without the intimacy. Life is too short for that. [/quote]

You put a lot of words in people's mouths. I didn't say it "felt great." I said that you choose to view it as rejection, rather than viewing it as her response or the way she is. If she is low drive, it's not that she doesn't want you. It's that she doesn't want sex right now.  If you take that personally, then you are going to have a problem.

I'm sure it's a common response. People do all sorts of things that are unhealthy for themselves psychologically or physically, but common.

I'm not surprised that you are not with a low drive partner.  If you can't adjust your attitude, and she can't compromise and make an effort, then divorce is the only option.

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I'm a woman.

It's not an attitude problem or whining. It's an emotional and physical need. [/quote]

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