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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP If you are still here: You never know what having children will bring. You never know for certain how you will feel about it. After 4 years and 3 miscarriages, I finally had a beautiful baby boy. Perfect. But, for whatever reason -- bad person, I'M crazy, it took to much out of me, unhealed scars, too much work -- whatever, motherhood wasn't for me. I realized this when he turned 2. I kept waiting for the glorious love to kick in, but it never did. Fleeting through my mind was: I am sure someone would love to adopt this baby...
Now fast forward 18 years (sorry, long) He is a great kid. He is everything you would want in a son. I am so proud of him. BUT, it just never did happen for me. Motherhood just wasn't my thing at all. I know that some of you have said, so easy for you to say, when you have your longed for kid. Well, I have my kid, but it just wasn't for me.
So there is that -- maybe does not and won'r ever apply to you.
But in one last story, I was with a friend who told me, I could have done right without having kids. I was like Wahts? You are the best and most devoted mom ever.[/quote]

This is a hurtful post. Maybe in real life you are a lovely person, but here you sound awful and a bit psychopathic. You couldn't enjoy your kid until he was 18 and no longer your legal responsibility? Did you ever consider therapy or child-rearing classes? I feel sorry for your son.
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It is a truthful post. Check out the do you regret having kids post. Yes, I did say possibly I am crazy. I am ever thankful that he is low maintenance. If I had known I would feel this way, I probably would not have had him. Many times DH and I have discussed how much of a gamble we took ([b]having kids IS a gamble[/b]) and how lucky we are that he is even tempered and self motivating, not to mention healthy. Yes, we did try therapy and parenting classes (big help). But it did not change the basic inner feeling. I also feel sorry for my DS. And I sincerely hope he does not marry someone like his parents! It is another, and perfectly honest and realistic point of view. Sorry if it hurt your feelings. Of course we try to keep this perspective to ourselves. This is an anon board, after all.[/quote]

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