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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW and I had sex 1-2x per week before she got pregnant with DC2. We had sex maybe 3 times during her pregnancy. Then not at all for the first 2 or 3 months after that. Then after the first year we got it up to once a month. It didn't get better through about year 6, at which time we were at about once every 6 weeks.

We had a brief spike in our sex life when she read 50 Shades of Gray -- about twice a week for two months. Now we're back down to twice a month. I encourage her to read more erotica if that gets her motor running, but she doesn't seem to regard it as being worth the bother.

I was patient and didn't cheat, but it's by no means certain that new parents' sex life will bounce back if the husband is merely patient, kind, and understanding. [/quote]
It's not certain. I don't think it's fair to the spouse to not put effort into regaining a healthy sex life. You can't tell from the onset if it's part of the normal postpartum recovery or an overall unwillingness to be a good partner. [/quote]

Also, I think it's easier to maintain a good sex life if you never get into the habit of a bad one. That's why those postpartum months are so important. Some degree of patience is absolutely necessary. But, I'd encourage new parents to discuss their expectations for their sex life during pregnancy and early on with the baby. Keep those expectations reasonable, and don't rush things. But don't expect that sex will just get better magically if you're not paying attention to it and nurturing your sex life. [/quote]

That's the most reasonable advice I've seen here on this topic. [/quote]

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